What is my role as guide in the dream work?

My work is to companion you into the dream koan or riddle with a safe, grounded nervous system, a curious mind that has learned how to navigate countless defensive ego strategies, that tracks patterns and avenues for healing, that can see trap doors and help you to fall through, that isn’t bound by the spell of the dream, whose heart is wide open with curious compassion, with eyes that can see what is missing or unobserved, and that can bless anything that is encountered. There is nothing I can’t love or see in its wholeness.

I serve the dream, so I let the dream be the guide. I trust the dream without exception, and I trust the dreamer. If you have had a dream, then you are ready for the material in that dream, and the dream is providing the resource you need for the material found in the dream. Deep down, your body and psyche know how to heal, grow, and blossom into your soul’s image, and every dream comes with the cure or antidote for what ails the dreamer. Even nightmares come with their own cures.

Some of these cures will take some time, practice, and perhaps therapeutic support through modalities like EMDR, for them to be fully integrated. I have found that the only possibility that a dream will re-traumatize the dreamer, is if the dreamer and dream worker force an encounter with the intolerable image without the antidotal resources on board, beyond the pace of integration, and beyond the pace of consent. In dream work, we do everything we can to work at the pace of resource, and at the pace of consent.

We are always asking, “What does the dream want for the dreamer (and/or for the collective)?” Or, “What is the Dream Maker trying to do here?” And, “What is the pace of curiosity and consent?”

I am highly trained, I have spent significant time in my own dreams, having my own dreams tended, and have spent countless hours tending the dreams of others. The dream world has become a familiar ecology in which I support people.